- 11:59 Waiting on hubby's youngest brother 2 get 2 the hospital 2 discuss the life or death decision about their mom #
- 15:34 yay for hospital wi-fi #
- 17:52 Went out to the car to have a smoke - turned on the radio - Don't Fear The reaper is on - how appropriate #
- 19:20 Long frigging day - i'm so ready for a hot shower and a cold beer #
4/4/09
my day at the Hospital
We got here a little after 10AM - brother K got here about 5 minutes after us and about an hour later the doctor came by and we had our "family meeting" where he gave us the skinny on what is happening to hubby's mom. He made it sound pretty damn grim. (brother J conveniently missed the meeting - he had to work) And hubby and K pretty much agreed that their mom wouldn't want to be in this situation - kept alive by machines - it was her "worst nightmare"
So he essentially told us that she's not breathing on her own and we should seriously consider taking her off the ventilator cuz she won't have any quality of life - but that we could choose to keep her on the vent indefinitely cuz her vitals are strong. Her pneumonia is in check and the infection is disappedaring - as well as her blood pressure and heart rate were solid - but she just can't breathe on her own.
so after waiting for J all day I guess they're now saying that they have to take her off her sedation and wait for her to wake up before they can take her off the ventilator - which could take a couple days - which i don't get cuz the nurse told us earlier that they specifically use this sedative cuz it only takes about 15 - 20 minutes for people to wake up once they're removed from it (don't ask me what it is - my brain is much and I have no idea right now - the only thing keeping me alive is coffee and lots of it)
so i guess we're supposed to all go to dinner and discuss what's going on - i'll know more then - and then we have to work on getting their mom's finances etc in order (hubby's executor of her estate)
and for the record it's gonna be hell - i can already see it - cuz apparently she's been living at J's house for the past few months and paying something like $750 in RENT PLUS about half the utilities (which hubby said looks like it comes to around $1500/month) and altho i don't currently have proof, I'm pretty sure the other SIL (K's wife) has skimmed some off the top as well since she's in charge of the bills etc. (But that's just me starting a rumor more than anything)
and on a personal note it's been stressful but no scenes really. Other than J's wife trying to give me a hug when she showed up this morning and I refused cuz i have no desire to even pretend to be nice. I'm here for my husband and his mom in this trying time, no other reason. I'm sure even now they're pretty pissed that i'm sitting here on the puter instead of socializing - but i really don't have much to say.
anyway - visiting hours are almost over and we're heading to dinner to discuss what's going on.
xoxoxox
So he essentially told us that she's not breathing on her own and we should seriously consider taking her off the ventilator cuz she won't have any quality of life - but that we could choose to keep her on the vent indefinitely cuz her vitals are strong. Her pneumonia is in check and the infection is disappedaring - as well as her blood pressure and heart rate were solid - but she just can't breathe on her own.
so after waiting for J all day I guess they're now saying that they have to take her off her sedation and wait for her to wake up before they can take her off the ventilator - which could take a couple days - which i don't get cuz the nurse told us earlier that they specifically use this sedative cuz it only takes about 15 - 20 minutes for people to wake up once they're removed from it (don't ask me what it is - my brain is much and I have no idea right now - the only thing keeping me alive is coffee and lots of it)
so i guess we're supposed to all go to dinner and discuss what's going on - i'll know more then - and then we have to work on getting their mom's finances etc in order (hubby's executor of her estate)
and for the record it's gonna be hell - i can already see it - cuz apparently she's been living at J's house for the past few months and paying something like $750 in RENT PLUS about half the utilities (which hubby said looks like it comes to around $1500/month) and altho i don't currently have proof, I'm pretty sure the other SIL (K's wife) has skimmed some off the top as well since she's in charge of the bills etc. (But that's just me starting a rumor more than anything)
and on a personal note it's been stressful but no scenes really. Other than J's wife trying to give me a hug when she showed up this morning and I refused cuz i have no desire to even pretend to be nice. I'm here for my husband and his mom in this trying time, no other reason. I'm sure even now they're pretty pissed that i'm sitting here on the puter instead of socializing - but i really don't have much to say.
anyway - visiting hours are almost over and we're heading to dinner to discuss what's going on.
xoxoxox
4/2/09
4/1/09
- 13:06 @ home - forgot my cell here so twitter's blowing it up - MIL still in hospital - hubby's at work - i'm taking a nap - happy april #
- 18:30 Lost my phone for a couple hours - finally found it and the book i had misplaced over a year ago - house of leaves #
- 19:18 Just watched last night's DWTS results show - not disappointed w/ who was eliminated at all #
- 21:57 So glad the contestant that was eliminated 2nite on American Idol is finally gone #
3/31/09
- 00:53 Watching Battles BC #
- 01:23 Hubby's mom's back on ventilator - they misdiagnosed her w/ bronchial infection - she really has pneumonia #
- 01:37 @jesseluna almost as brave as the man that first ate chitlins #
- 02:00 Getting frustrated w/ twitter not sending tweets to my cell - everyday i sign in & see at least 5 or 6 @ replies not received #
- 03:33 Watching Monday night's DWTS - thank the gods Steve-O didn't dance in his clown costume - seriously WTF!?! #
- 03:52 I would not be disappointed if Holly, The Woz and Steve-o were in the bottom 3 on DWTS 2day #
- 11:48 Popcorn 3 allows you to Transfer your favorite personal video entertainment to DVD, iPod, PSP or mobile phone is.gd/pSzh #magpie #
- 16:51 getting ready to head downriver w/ hubby 2 visit his mom and then spending the night w/ mine - his bosses sent him home 2day #
MIL update
as you may or may not know, hubby's mom was admitted to the hospital over the weekend. we hadn't received much in the way of updates until Sunday morning when SIL left a nasty message telling us to "get our asses to the hospital" to see her and say goodbye or we would "regret it and have it on your conscience forever that you didn't get to see her one last time before she died ... cuz she IS going to die"
so we braced ourselves, went to the hospital and got there just as they had removed her breathing tube. She was supposedly doing much better. she knew hubby was there and she talked with him a little - told him she loves him. His 2 brothers were there, J (the one that told him their dad died) and K (the one that kicked us out of his house on xmas) as well as K's wife. J (the SIL that left the message) was with their kids (under 14 not allowed in ICU)
thankfully they left us alone pretty much. as a matter of fact they didn't even speak to us and barely looked our way. hubby sat next to his mom and held her hand and I sat in the corner out of the way. we stayed for a couple hours (almost until visiting hours were over) It was hell on my hubby, but he did okay. and there were no scenes so we took that to be a good thing.
yesterday I tried to call the hospital to find out how my MIL was doing, but they wouldn't give me any information. they told me to "call the family" i was like "WE ARE the family" but they wouldn't budge except to tell me she was stable and still in ICU. And she only told me that after i explained that hubby wasn't receiving info from his brothers thanks to family drama.
Later on hubby received a call from J that K and his wife were already trying to divvy up their mom's things and wanted K to be on his side. This pissed me off when hubby told me cuz A. J is a crazy asshole who has no right to ask my hubby for ANYTHING! and B. their dad is still alive. so anything hers would be his unless otherwise stated in a will (which I don't think she has)
At first I told hubby he should step in, but then as we talked i realized it's something he doesn't want to be involved in and he really doesnt NEED to be involved in. And i guess his brother J even said "when mom and dad die we'll just be 3 separate people" - which is essentially what they are now.
ANYWAY!!!!!!!
Hubby called me today shortly before 2PM - they sent him home from work cuz he was far too distracted there. They know his mom's in bad shape. And he had spoken to his brother K. i guess their mom was originally being treated for a bronchial infection but they were waiting on test results. Well, they removed the breathing tube before they found out it wasn't BI but pneumonia! so they had to put her back on the ventilator and she's also on a feeding tube and they're working on draining the fluid from her lungs. The doctors have said the longer she doesn't breath on her own the harder it will be to take her off the machine. And they also don't have any place really to build on. She's a very sick woman. She hasn't taken care of herself lately and now it's come back to bite her.
anyway - we're leaving in a few to go see her tonight, spending the night at my mom's and then going to see her tomorrow before hubby goes to work.
wish us well
so we braced ourselves, went to the hospital and got there just as they had removed her breathing tube. She was supposedly doing much better. she knew hubby was there and she talked with him a little - told him she loves him. His 2 brothers were there, J (the one that told him their dad died) and K (the one that kicked us out of his house on xmas) as well as K's wife. J (the SIL that left the message) was with their kids (under 14 not allowed in ICU)
thankfully they left us alone pretty much. as a matter of fact they didn't even speak to us and barely looked our way. hubby sat next to his mom and held her hand and I sat in the corner out of the way. we stayed for a couple hours (almost until visiting hours were over) It was hell on my hubby, but he did okay. and there were no scenes so we took that to be a good thing.
yesterday I tried to call the hospital to find out how my MIL was doing, but they wouldn't give me any information. they told me to "call the family" i was like "WE ARE the family" but they wouldn't budge except to tell me she was stable and still in ICU. And she only told me that after i explained that hubby wasn't receiving info from his brothers thanks to family drama.
Later on hubby received a call from J that K and his wife were already trying to divvy up their mom's things and wanted K to be on his side. This pissed me off when hubby told me cuz A. J is a crazy asshole who has no right to ask my hubby for ANYTHING! and B. their dad is still alive. so anything hers would be his unless otherwise stated in a will (which I don't think she has)
At first I told hubby he should step in, but then as we talked i realized it's something he doesn't want to be involved in and he really doesnt NEED to be involved in. And i guess his brother J even said "when mom and dad die we'll just be 3 separate people" - which is essentially what they are now.
ANYWAY!!!!!!!
Hubby called me today shortly before 2PM - they sent him home from work cuz he was far too distracted there. They know his mom's in bad shape. And he had spoken to his brother K. i guess their mom was originally being treated for a bronchial infection but they were waiting on test results. Well, they removed the breathing tube before they found out it wasn't BI but pneumonia! so they had to put her back on the ventilator and she's also on a feeding tube and they're working on draining the fluid from her lungs. The doctors have said the longer she doesn't breath on her own the harder it will be to take her off the machine. And they also don't have any place really to build on. She's a very sick woman. She hasn't taken care of herself lately and now it's come back to bite her.
anyway - we're leaving in a few to go see her tonight, spending the night at my mom's and then going to see her tomorrow before hubby goes to work.
wish us well
3/30/09
- 23:13 Is al pacino italian? #
- 01:13 @lindentreephoto saw Wicked for the 1st time in Dec. Loved it! So different from the book - and the music is amazing! #
- 01:36 apple has refurbished iTVs on sale. "while supplies last". i got mine couple months ago. love it!!! is.gd/pBgd #magpie #
- 02:45 @wilw @levarburton 2nite's Family Guy w/ Star Trek: TNG was frigging hilarious! #
- 03:02 Watching Any Dream Will Do on BBCA - i <3 Graham Norton & John Barrowman - and Andrew Lloyd Webber of course :) #
- 03:17 @justsimplyholly damn you - you've done it again - am i ever gonna be asleep when you wake up? #
- 03:20 @justsimplyholly easy for you to say lol:) #
- 03:23 @justsimplyholly that's cuz you're just too damn responsible :) #
- 21:10 I thinuk i'm drunk :( #
3/29/09
- 23:30 Heading up to the Box #
- 23:42 @chem_geek hoping to - although it's not looking good :) #
- 23:57 @apricotbaby will do:) #
- 00:00 @moonmist650 oh no! Storm knock everything out? #
- 00:21 Blew up once again at someone at the box - i really need to get my emotions under control - it's gonna get me in trouble #
- 00:44 @jesseluna did you make a wish on the star/UFO? #
- 01:00 Btw happy 2 year twitter anniversary to me 2day - march 29 #
- 01:22 Omg! We Are The World is on the radio right now! #
- 01:24 There's a choice we're making we're saving our own lives it's true we make a better day just you and me #
- 01:35 Popcorn 3 allows you to Transfer your favorite personal video entertainment to DVD, iPod, PSP or mobile phone is.gd/ptYP #magpie #
- 01:49 Watching movie - The Legend of Hell House 1973 #
- 15:02 dammit! didn't make it to 5,000 tweets before my versary. oh well! hoping to make 10,000 by the next one tho ;) #
- 15:15 hubby's mom is in ICU - in spite of the nasty VM we got from SIL we're planning on going to see her later 2day - praying there isn't a scene #
- 15:17 @misscee72 thanks hun xoxox I'm sure gonna need it #
- 15:19 @misscee72 I may take you up on that ;) #
- 16:06 Check out my profile to see the new Twitter background I created from TwitBacks.com #twitbacks tinyurl.com/6owdfd #
- 16:13 @justsimplyholly Dec 20, 2007 twitter.com/justsimplyholly/status/517624032 #
- 16:18 @justsimplyholly i took the "more" link from the bottom of the page & just changed the page numbers until i got to your first tweet - pg 206 #
- 16:20 GO STATE! #
- 16:22 @justsimplyholly you are so welcome :) #
- 16:31 FINAL FOUR BABY! #
- 16:34 @justsimplyholly kinda like re-reading old journals or blog posts :) #
- 16:36 @misscee72 i've heard mixed reviews - those that like it LOVE it and those that don't HATE it - no inbetween #
- 16:51 On our way to the hospital :( #
- 17:17 Turning twitter off on the cell - if you need me DM or text me #
- 18:46 Hubby's mom's off the ventilator - gonna be here a couple more days at least while an infection clears but she's doing much better #
- 21:28 @ everyone thanks for your support today - it means the world to me <3<3<3 #
- 22:15 Heading up to the Box for a well deserved adult beverage & hopefully some friendly conversation :) #
- 22:53 Autoeroticasphixiation #
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